Q: Do you know how to raise well-behaved kids?
A: Behaviour always follows a need. If our kids' needs are being met they show good behaviour. When our kids' needs are not being met, e.g the need for attention and power, they will show it through bad behaviour. The Rapid Anger Relief System teaches you how to connect to your own unmet needs first, because when you recognize those, you instantly know what to do when your kids don’t behave.
Q:I feel like I am doing something wrong with my kids. They don’t listen no matter what I do. How do I fix that?
A: Your kids do not need fixing. Our kids not listening is a reflection of ourselves and the expectations we put on them. When you clear out all your anger triggers, you will be able to show up in the way for your kids that makes them listen to you 99% of the time. It works like a charm.
Q: Lately, no matter what I do, it turns out to be chaos, tantrums or crying. And it is really frustrating for me since I am giving my 100%. How do I react every time they do this?
A: Kids have big emotions as the right side of the brain develops faster than the left side of the brain. They are often not capable of expressing what they feel. In these moments it is very important to not just acknowledge their feelings but really see them for who they are. Often we can’t even do that as adults because we never learned to deal with our own big feelings.
The RAR system will show you how to navigate your own as well as your kids’ big emotions with calm and compassion, so these moments pass quickly and you can go off in your day.
Q: I feel like I am failing my kids when I yell at them. I feel so guilty afterwards, like the worst mom, but how do I get them to do as told without asking 5 times?
A: Kids cooperate when they feel seen and heard for who they are. RAR teaches you how to heal the current relationship and then shows you how to build that deep connection with your child so every time you need them to do something, they will do it without nagging.